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20 steps to being happy now!

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  1. funnyVideos

    funnyVideos New Member Webmaster

    From the happiness institute:

    Tip 1
    Make happiness a priority. If happiness is not at the
    top of your list then other things will take precedence.
    If other things take precedence, they may well interfere
    with your efforts to feel good.

    Tip 2
    Make plans to be happy. Those who fail to plan, plan
    to fail. Just like in any other life domain, the successful
    pursuit of happiness requires planning.

    Tip 3
    Set happy goals. Following on from Tip 2, planning
    requires effective goal setting. And don’t forget to
    make sure your goals are SMART (specific,
    measurable, achievable, relevant and timed).

    Tip 4
    Do things that make you happy. Although this
    sounds obvious, many people simple forget to do
    things from which they gain pleasure. And do them as
    often as possible.

    Tip 5
    Set yourself tasks from which you’ll gain
    satisfaction. As well as pleasure and enjoyment,
    satisfaction is also an important part of happiness. So
    make sure that when you’re planning your tasks and
    activities you include things that might not be fun, but
    from which you’ll gain a sense of achievement.

    Tip 6
    Play and have fun. Don’t take life too seriously.
    Although we all have responsibilities there’s no reason
    why we can’t approach much of our lives in a playful
    manner. In fact, those who do so will undoubtedly be

    Tip 7
    Identify where your strengths lie. Know where your
    faults and weaknesses are to avoid problems. Know
    where your strengths lie to be really happy and to
    succeed in life.
    Tip 8
    Utilise your strengths. Although we all can and
    should endeavour to improve in areas in which we’re
    weak there’s just as much, if not more, to be gained
    from focusing on the maximal utilisation of your
    strengths (including all your positive qualities and

    Tip 9
    Be curious. Constantly search for new ways to be
    happy. Keep a look out for new ways to approach life
    and to have fun.

    Tip 10
    Be grateful and appreciate what you have. We all
    have many choices in life one of which is whether to
    focus on all the things we don’t have (of which there
    might be many), or to focus on all the things we do
    have. There’s no doubt, that gratitude and
    appreciation will significantly increase your chances of
    experiencing happiness.

    Tip 11
    Learn to like and ideally to love yourself. We must
    love before we can be loved. To love others and to be
    loved by others is a key component of happiness.

    Tip 12
    Invest time and energy in to your key
    relationships. Happy people spend more time
    working on and in their relationships. Happy people
    tend to be more supportive of other people in their life.
    Happy people are more generous and altruistic.

    Tip 13
    Socialise and interact with others as much as
    possible. Happy people have both more and better
    quality relationships. So as well as working to improve
    the quality of your relationships (as noted in Tip 12) it’s
    also worthwhile working to improve the number of your

    Tip 14
    Weed out unhelpful thoughts. The Dalai Lama has
    been quoted saying that “The central method for
    achieving a happier life is to train your mind in a daily
    practice that weakens negative attitudes and
    strengthens positive ones.” Learn first to identify your
    thoughts and then begin to challenge those that are
    negative and unhelpful.

    Tip 15
    Plant happier, optimistic thoughts. As noted in Tip
    14, there are two parts to developing helpful, optimistic
    thinking. The first is to weed out unhelpful negative
    thoughts and the second is to plant more positive,
    optimistic ones. This is essentially a skill, and like any
    other skill becomes easier and more effective with

    Tip 16
    Live a healthy life. Eat well and keep active.
    Exercise regularly. Although not impossible, it’s
    difficult to be happy if you’re constantly sick and not
    very healthy.

    Tip 17
    Ensure you gain adequate sleep and rest.
    Consistent with Tip 16, it’s difficult to be happy if you’re
    constantly tired and struggling to find enough energy to
    get through the day. To assist with this, regularly
    practice relaxation and/or meditation strategies.

    Tip 18
    Manage your time and priorities. Happy people tend
    to believe they’re more in control of their lives. In
    doing so, they’re more likely to take an active
    approach to solving problems. If something’s not quite
    right in your life, do something. And further, make sure
    that what you’re doing is important. Put first things

    Tip 19
    Control what you can control. Accept what you
    can’t control. And learn to be wise enough to know the

    Tip 20
    Live in the present moment. The author, Henry
    Miller once said “Every moment is a golden one for
    him who has the vision to recognise it as such.” The
    only moment in which we can truly be happy is the
    present moment. The only moment over which we
    have control is the present moment. So be happy
    now! Because if not now, then when?

    Tip 21 – an EXTRA tip to make you happy!
    Make happiness an integral part of your life.
    Develop happiness routines and make them a part of
    your every day living. Remind yourself however you
    can to do what you need to do and reward yourself as
    often as possible for doing what you’ve done.

  2. mohab

    mohab New Member Webmaster

    Be curious. Constantly search for new ways to be
    happy. Keep a look out for new ways to approach life
    and to have fun.

    I like that..

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